Once upon a time….

Once upon a time….

For as long as I can remember I have always believed that I would find that one for me. That person who I was so proud to call mine and they proud to call there own. I believed that if I ever found such a person that the love we had would be so strong nothing could tear it apart.

I so strongly believed that this person existed after all I had seen others  have it, it was even found in the bible these type of relationships. After all God even said that he would cause man and wife to cleave to each other. I knew that existed and all my life I believed I would find it.

In my search I looked all the wrong places. I found myself time and time again subject to the same pattern. A certain persistent crucible . It went a little something like this. Yeah I realize you want to give me your all but, I just got hurt bymy ex and I’m never giving my all to anyone else. Or my ex just put me thru so much hell and he said he loved me and you say you love me but when he said he loved me he cheated on me he used me and so I don’t believe that it means much and you shall now jump thru 500 fiery hoops to prove to me you love me and if at any point I’m not satisfied then you sir have completely wasted your time because I will move on.

Or I have been there done that in my past relationships I’m so not into what you want now because its nothing new and I’m not impressed or care about what your talking about. Or it’s the your good but your not exactly what I’m looking for.  So what will happen is I will keep you around knowing I’m not fully happy so incase my Mr Right comes along then i’ll replace you and or cheat on you (you’ll never find out right?) after all, I’ve given my heart to men in the past so you say you want me then you’ll do what I think is necessary for you to please me and, i’ll do what is necessary to please myself because after all I need to look out for me and protect myself. You? What about you? Well you asked to be with me now didn’t you?

When I looked back I absolutely did. I asked to be with them because I saw something most of the time that was just a shell of a person. After they had been gutted from a previous relationship and because I happened to come along right as they where going thru or getting away then at first it seemed great because I was something there ex wasn’t. But after a while I wasn’t what they really wanted. I was too much. Too kind, too giving, too trusting, I was about them too much and I didn’t try to control them. I was too faithful too them (honestly at some point he has to cheat on you right?).  I was too forgiving (they pushed and pushed and pushed to test me when I already offered my best from the beginning). How boring. At some point I had to become this rude argumentative person cause after all that’s what they all did. But I never was and I never did.

I felt something has to be wrong with me. Why when I did the things I was supposed to do did it feel like I was getting punished. Punished for every bad relationship before me. I wasn’t able to be given to because they already gave there all and best to people before me who took it all and did them dirty.

When looking back I still believe that if they truly understood who I was and what I was offering them it would be so simple to just let go and let true love happen. But then I realized this. I could never do enough, I could never love enough, I could never sacrifice enough to be good enough for a person if they were not open to receive me.  I would always be rejected, I will always be not quite enough to totally make them satisfied. When its for you it’s freely given to you. It has no constraints on it, no contracts or conditions. It is not predicated on another persons past actions its all about you and that person. When its truly freely given to you, you will be enough and there will never be a need to be entertained by others, your ego stroked by other people or your happiness found in transient temporary pleasures and people.

Looking back I realized it was simple no matter how perfect of a key you are if the lock doesn’t fit it doesn’t fit. No matter how much forcing you do you cannot unlock their heart door. Forcing it only hurts you and waste your time, emotions, money and confidence and makes them see you as expendable and not really a necessity in there life. They been thru so much that no matter what you do it will not matter. Your life and heart is not that important they have to work on there own heart first.

I cant tell you how many times I had to stand in the shadow of someone’s ex. No matter how shitty they treated the girl they still where the reason I was put thru hell and the gauntlet and ultimately had to leave because I was never given that 100% they so faithfully gave that person. Most of the time because they didn’t have it to give anymore. And honestly to them I wasn’t worth that effort because what if it failed then. I was not good enough for them to give what they gave before. I wasn’t worth it.

Despite that I still believe that love exist. I believe there is someone who can love you past themselves and past there past. Someone who can recognize you for who you are let you flourish and grow into a beautiful mate. I still believe that love conquers all and that if everyone is all in there’s no way you can lose. I know that despite the many times I have been crushed with tears streaming down my face because I was forced once again to pay for the deeds of another man that if I can love thru that then maybe one day someone will think enough of me to love me thru it too.

I still believe in agape love and being more then enough of a man that makes my woman proud to call her own, proud to share everything with  and wakes up glad I’m in there life. Even tho there’s days where my faith and confidence is tried I remember who made me and what he thinks of me.

If I’m never enough for anyone on this earth then when I leave at least they will know that I loved hard, I forgave often, I was stepped on but never stayed down. I would give my last, for what profits a man to gain the world but lose his soul. I believed in love and the power of it. I believed that we all fall short and I can never feel better then another. And if I’m blessed to have another day getting to love the woman that is so important to me then my life and all its hardships and troubles would have been worth it to learn this lesson on how to love.

 

Be blessed,

Kev

 

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Glasses:Sorgo Tort SG

Fit: HHC Eli Ensemble

FOOL’S GOLD

FOOL’S GOLD

As I lay in bed thinking of only you.  How our life is going to be in the future to come.  I hear wedding bells, you’re the only one for me.  My days at work I can’t concentrate as I am overwhelmed with the feelings that I have for you, can’t wait for you to call just to hear your voice how it always seems to calm me.  I have forgotten my past and have started to focus on my present and my future as the picture you paint for me seems to be one of such fresh and newness.

Was it all just a dream, am I mistaken that all I thought was love was a mere façade?   I question myself in following in the beliefs that you truly loved me.  I was blinded by my own stupidity. Things I refused to accept I kept making excuses for.  The girls, the long nights out you said you were working, the late night phone calls; what was I thinking?  I made myself believe you truly loved me, living in my own fantasy.  The dream you built that shaded my eyes so that I could not properly see or my ears could not truly hear the screams of reality.

I trusted you with my heart and I can only blame myself for letting it be torn apart.  Having that gut intuition and not listening is my own fault, chasing fool’s gold.   The hurt the pain inside of thinking I could never live without you, my dreams now shattered and feel like living in a state of constant confusion and in the pits of lonely hell.  I ask myself why?  Why did I chose to believe a lie, why do I have these tears that I cry?

You had me under your spell, breaking free was not the plan.  Not blinded by the foolish games anymore and have been set free to truly be me again.  I lived by your wants and dreams, it wasn’t meant to be. So please go on and find the other’s you were with and untrue with me.  For the fool doesn’t exist here anymore.  Fool’s Gold is a far memory not for you in knowing what you had, but for me in knowing you will never come this way again.

“FOOLS GOLD”

Oh, silly me my dear, for thinking that you’d stay
Gave you my heart and then you ran away
Either I’m stupid, I’m foolish, or you’re playing me
But it seems we were never really meant to be

So I thought I would try something new
I wanted to find out if I could live happy without you
And it turned out I wasn’t living at all
But I would’ve never known if you had just played along

I was living a dream believing things that just ain’t true
Oh I can’t believe I ever believed in you
You had me chasing fool’s gold
I was chasing fool’s gold
I was chasing fool’s gold

Somewhere deep down inside I knew you weren’t right
But breaking your spell was a plan I never devised
I wanna back here, forever livin’ for you
But I woulda been living forever as your fool

I was living the dream believing things that just ain’t true
Oh I can’t believe I ever believed in you
You had me chasing fool’s gold
I was chasing fool’s gold
I was chasing fool’s gold

I bit into the apple
I took the wooden nickel, yeah
I was blinded to my core
And I went into the wrong door
And furthermore

I was living a dream believing things that just ain’t true
Oh I can’t believe I ever believed in you
You had me chasing fool’s gold
I was chasing fool’s gold
I was chasing fool’s gold

I was living a dream believing things that just ain’t true
Oh I can’t believe I ever believed in you
You had me chasing fool’s gold
I was chasing fool’s gold
I was chasing fool’s gold

I was living a dream believing things that just ain’t true
Oh I can’t believe I ever believed in you
You had me chasing fool’s gold
I was chasing fool’s gold
I was chasing fool’s gold

REIGN’S STYLE

OUTFIT:  DIRAM STELLA BRA/SKIRT/BEIGE COAT
HAIR: enVOGUE: NICOLE
SHOES: MODA SAVASCI GLADIATOR HEELS
EARRINGS: PID-HOOP GOLD
NECKLACE: LUXE. KNOT GOLD
CUFFS: BOOM FEARLESS WRIST CUFF BANGLES (PITCH)
LIPS: HEARTSTICK ANTIQUE

 

 

BELIEVE IT OR NOT!!!!   **REIGN’S RANT**

BELIEVE IT OR NOT!!!! **REIGN’S RANT**

 

It continues to baffle me how people think I owe everyone an answer to something that might or might

not be true.  How I run my business, how I handle my relationships and the never ending hearsay.  It

seems to run ramped in this world we call Second Life.  Those that claim they don’t do drama are the

cause of much drama and when I decide to eliminate them from my life, and then I become the bad

person.  Is there anyone out there with this same issue?  I am sure there are lots.

 

It seems that many want to be involved in either telling you how to run your business, who you should

hire, who you should fire, always questioning your actions (if you say something you’re wrong, if you

don’t your still wrong), seems to me a losing battle with people who do not even have their own houses

under control.  I have stated “Seek to First Understand and Then Be Understood” ‘Steven Covey~.

Where are the days that if you had any doubts in your mind about something being said about someone

you would first seek out to find out if the information is true, the source and always knowing there are

three sides to a story (Your’s, Mine and the Truth).

 

It seems I am always under fire for decisions I make and I am always judged on them one way or

another.  Well honestly, who gave you the right to judge me when you have a glass house of your own?

Instead of listening to negativity why not try and be a solution to a problem, or check the facts before

choosing a side?   I have to question people’s common sense some times as to judge you will eventually

be judged.

 

There are many that just need to stay neutral.  If I personally am in some crossfire or my business and

executives then let us fight our own battles.  We are all here to have a great time and enjoy our Second

Life but it seems so many want to get mixed in the drama and put their two cents in where it doesn’t

count or have anything to do with them.

 

My business I run my way, just as others do, I handle my relationships with care until someone feels

they have gotten what they want or can’t get what they want out of me, then the friendship ends (we all

know this scenario).  It’s funny how people say “you have changed”, no I haven’t changed I am still the

levelheaded person I have always been with my flaws.  Just because I speak up for myself in a manner

you have never seen or can’t comprehend does not mean that I have changed.  We all need to do self –

evaluations.

 

Ye without sin, please cast the first stone.  Not one of us on this earth is perfect, stop acting as if

everything you do is a bed of roses and condemning those who truly mind their own business.  We

should start celebrating each other’s achievements instead of trying to pull each other down.  I will grant

everyone this; I usually will not say anything when people are keeping drama going about how I run

business or hearsay but when you attack me personally or my staff I will definitely have something to

say especially if it’s a detriment to them.  I know each and every one of you would do the same if it was

something you loved and cherished.

 

Many are using scare tactics to control instead of coming and finding out truths for themselves.  One thing I am is

approachable and transparent.  I will tell you how I feel, I will give you my opinion but only when asked and willing to

help anyone succeed.

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Your time is limited, so don’t waste it living someone else’s life. 

Don’t be trapped by dogma-which is living with the results of other people’s thinking. 

Don’t let the noise of other’s opinions drown out your own inner voice. 

And most important, have the courage to follow your heart and intuition.  They somehow already

know what you truly want to be the outcome.

~Steve Jobs~

Love, Peace and Happiness

Reign Congrejo Jameson

 

Khalied’s Outfit-

Glasses:   S O R G O – Tetsuo/Wood (g)
Earrings: / XIAJ /  Vo horn Earrings: Black
Shoes: BLK 2.0 SHARk’Z REDcroco
Shirt and Shorts: Giovanni FashionNatic

Reign’s Outfit-

Hair-fiore-Merina Hair Black
Shoes- Savasci Gladiator Heels & Hud
Outfit-Vero Modero/V Romper Navy
Jewelry- RYCA Bangle DXL Platinum

MAKING YOUR MATE YOUR PRIORITY..

MAKING YOUR MATE YOUR PRIORITY..

Its been a while since Kev and I last wrote as our real lives have gotten a tad bit busy however; we are

back.  I felt the urge to write about “Making your mate your priority” as I have come across in my real

life as well as Second life of couples that have been together for very long periods of time.  I was talking

to some co-workers and both of them stated they had been married in excess of 30 years.  My question

to them was “How do you make it work?”  With not even a moment to think about it they both stated

they are the best of friends and actually like each other and enjoy being around each other.  One lady

told me that if an event is going on and one or the other is not invited, they figure out how they both

can go.  It’s for only short periods of time that they are actually apart.  This blew me away especially

over 30 years of marriage.

 

Reading as I like to do as well as just receiving people’s opinions, I have always wanted to know how

marriages last this long in a society where you see so many getting married and not even making it to

their first anniversary.  What are the secret ingredients?  I cannot speak for all but the majority of

people that I talk to would love to have a long term/marital relationship; we have to ask ourselves what

does it take and are we willing to do it?

 

The more I study these couples and ask questions, some are witty and some are serious it’s just the plain

truth “Transparency”.   Being friends is of the most importance and really liking and enjoying each other

because if you can’t weather things in this arena you will not be able to move to the love nest.  When I

met Kev there was not a love interest that even sparked, he put his hand out to me as a friend as I was

going through a trying time.  He listened to me, made me feel better when I needed to cry and was

there as shoulder to cry on and a bouncing board sort to speak.  The more we hung around each other

the more we saw how many things we had in common, again nothing intimate or sexual involved.  We

talked about current technology (yes we are geeks), what was going on in World News and anything

from A-Z.  It’s amazing when you talk to people how much you can really find out that you never knew

just in passing.  Kev and I took some time to really understand the meaning of friendship and then

moving to the next level and let me tell you it wasn’t always roses and good times.

 

I learned through my own process and talking to other couples that it also takes a lot of patience.  What

we all should know is we are NOT perfect, therefore should not try to look for the perfect person on

earth but find the perfect person to fit you.  Each time a storm comes you work your way through it, this

is where communication is of most importance.  You have to be able to talk about anything, sometimes

you may not like or want to hear but in the end it makes you stronger as a couple.  I have seen so many

couples let outside influences in and have had their relationships ruined (including me).  My best friend

should be my mate (husband, boyfriend, girlfriend, wife, life partner,  etc).  This doesn’t just rear its ugly

head with having friends of the opposite sex it can show up in spending more time with your girls or

with the guys than maintaining your relationship.  What is so important to tell them that you cannot tell

your partner, after all isn’t he/she your best friend?   Learn how to talk to one another and not at each

other.  Fight fair as I call it and keep the kitchen sink out of your fights, stick to the topic at hand.  Its ok

to agree to disagree as this is what makes us unique.  DO NOT let someone from the outside tell you

how to handle your relationship, what works for one may not work for you.  So many give us solicited

advice on how to handle our relationships and then when it doesn’t work you want to blame that

person.  Its your relationship and yours alone, create what you want as great relationships do not just

happen they are work.

 

When was the last time you asked your mate, “Do I show you enough attention?”  Do you have date

nights?  Do you make time to talk about serious things without shutting each other down or out?  Let

me tell you, if you are not doing these things there is room left for error and someone else to sneak in

and give these missing items and thus your problems begin.  I realize that everyone is not ready for a

“Transparent” relationship and if you are not you need to ask  yourself “Why am I in this relationship”?

Stop wasting your time and the other person’s time if you cannot commit to being a friend in the

relationship and investing in it so that it grows into something that will last a lifetime.

I admit Kev sometimes has to get in my face because I want to run sometimes at the slightest bit of

turmoil, his stance with me “ I am not going anywhere, so you better get used to it”.  I threatened to

pack up one time and leave and he stated “Where are we going”.  You see the investment here.  I am no

means perfect however; I have a man that is perfect for me and has all my attention.  I will put other

things aside to make sure that his needs are met.  Do the test, and your mate will love you for it.

Love, Peace, Happiness

Reign Congrejo Jameson

 

Khalied’s Style Card

Shirt: ::K:: Dress Down Shirts Homme Alpha
Pants:  ::K:: Dual Belt Chinos Homme Alpha
Earrings: / XIAJ / Vo Horn Earrings + Gold
Neck: ///BENJAMINZ// AC-GOLD
Neck: //BENJAMINZ// -AC CROSS – GOLD
Neck: //BENJAMINZ// -AC HERRINGBONE-GOLD
Phone: [ kunst ] – kPhone 3C / wood
Shoes: [monso] My Horsebit Loafer – Brown ( guys)

 

Reign’s Style Card

Emery Audrina Top (Berry)
Emery Lauren Riot Jeans
Bangle/Bracelet Planex 4 (RYCA)
Necklace: Iced Peace Gold (RYCA)
Hair: No Match_No Hunt

I KNOW WHY THIS CAGED BLACK BIRD SINGS

I KNOW WHY THIS CAGED BLACK BIRD SINGS

Seen flying high with grace and glory, was admired from afar.  Soaring freely without sound as she had found her way in the world.  She saw the world through her own eyes so rich and pure and without a smudge, until one day the black bird decided to land.  Captured for her beauty held in captivity by her owner to show off to friends, family whoever would see this precious jewel.  This blackbird soon found herself distraught she was no long free to wonder and be herself.  Captured, fed at certain times, saw the sunlight during certain hours; soon became depressed.

The blackbird began to sing and the owner thought it was of the most beautiful sound but to the blackbird it was a cry out to be set free to what it had always known.  The blackbird never had to sing because it always had the Freedom of Speech —In today’s society we are chastised for speaking the truth or speaking out against something we believe in; we are called bully’s yet only responding to the bullying that has been bestowed upon us.  Many think that just being quite sometimes is the easy route however; speaking truth into the universe sets in motion a catalyst for change in the right direction and for what one stands for and through this action has made great changes in history.  Freedom Of Equality –I am of equal to anyone that I stand next to or anyone that stands next to me.  There is no one on this earth above me for I know my GOD, with him I have everything.  Freedom Of Sexual Orientation –Free to love whom I chose, do not judge me as you will be standing at judgment day soon. 

This caged Black Bird sings for all the freedom that tries to be stripped away on a daily basis from speaking the truth and being ridiculed; being judged by people who have never spoken a hello but listen to words of another and judge based on someone else’s perception. The caged Black Bird will continue to sing loud until its voice is heard and it is understood what the Freedom Bell stands for or why the “I Have A Dream” Speech was written, or understanding your ancestry and their struggles to have you in such a great place right now that you can’t even see.  We continue to seek out the bad instead of realizing the bad has already lived itself and the present is making way for a better future. This caged black bird will fly again free when it’s realized we all have a choice to live with peace and harmony.

Love, Peace and Happiness

Reign Congrejo Jameson

FRIENDSHIP!!!

FRIENDSHIP!!!

“I’m selfish, impatient and a little insecure.  I make mistakes, I am out of control and at times hard to handle.  But if you can’t handle me at my worst, then you sure as hell don’t deserve me at my best. ~Marilyn Monroe

 

There is no introduction to this Chica next to me.   She is truly one of a kind.  This lovely piece of CottonCandy has dealt with a lot of negativity in her life and has with stood the hands of time.  I see in her what most don’t.  Many do not see the countless hours that I spend with her behind the scenes of BOSL magazine.  When I first took over we had to get into our own flow of what would work better for us and through those hours we truly formed a friendship.

Cotton knows many secrets of Reign and yet she continues to come back for more.  She knows the good, bad and the ugly.  This woman is very transparent, she doesn’t always agree with me and I truly appreciate that because it always give me a different perspective on how to look at different issues that come my way.  She has become a calming force in my life and helps me to take many things in stride.

Have you ever had the chance to talk to her on the phone?  OH MY!! What a wonderful and sweet voice… She will have you laughing and will keep you talking for hours on subjects that would have never crossed your mind in a million years and time just flies with her.  She has so much character and sass it’s unbelievable and a touch of a dark side that at times will make look sideways but all in good times.

I have to say that no matter what she is always there by my side .  It’s so funny that she will get mad about things I should get mad about she is like my twin.  She will go out of her way to do what is needed for BOSL as it is her love and she truly believes in it and tells me that.  I truly appreciate the friendship she has with me but love more the appreciation that she has for BOSL as it existed before me and may well after me and therefore I know it will continue to thrive knowing that people with her passion will be there to push it to its limits.  It’s not about me it’s about the passion for something, and boy does she have the PASSION.

Cotton I just wanted to show my appreciation for all that you have done and have been to me over this last year.  You’re my Marilyn Monroe.. Keep being you no matter what.  I love you now, tomorrow and forever.

Ladies and Gentlemen….Introducing Lady CottonCandy Teardrop….

 

CottonCandy Teardrop is wearing:

Hair – Bexley
Top – Amarelo Manga – Manoela [Dark Blue]
Pants Amarelo Manga – Manoela [Dark Blue]
Jewelry – Amarelo Manga Antonella

Reign Congrejo Jameson is wearing:

Hair: Dura boy *55 black
Dress-Amarelo Magna-Roberta Red
Jewelry-Mandala Fearless Necklace/Bracelets

 

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